
Luke commented the other day to me:
“I would love to read more on inviting middle schoolers to come more fully alive. I’m not always sure what that means for people in that stage of life. As I see it, most middle schoolers are in process of having so much life beat out of them. From many of the adults I talk to, much time is spent later in life asking God to restore the life that dwelt in them before entering middle school.”
The quick answer: Invest in Them.
Middle School is such a difficult stage in life. Their bodies are changing and they’re seeking their own voice in the world. They’re lost, but will never let on. So they just end up acting grumpy and emotional. What do they need? Adults engaging and investing in them. Most of their parents will begin to write them off at this stage because of their demeanor.
Relations require investment. Investments require time. So look at these kids like you’re in it for the long haul (ie. High School). Middle school is a good time for ground work. The light bulb rarely goes on when it comes to the Lord. But you are setting the stage for it to come on in coming years.
How do you engage them to seek life? That’s much tougher. Life to them has a very narrow focus. They are uber-peer conscious. They don’t think abstractly, so most of their thoughts revolve around personal gratification and survival. So I defer to the mention of investment. They look weird, they talk weird. They are the most awkward creatures on the planet. You know this. They know this. And being their friends in this stage is so meaningful to them. It says I accept you no matter what. That speaks volumes.
Invest, encourage, love these kids. They will see Christ in you. And that will point them to the one who offers them life abundantly.
Any of you have stories of adults that reached out to you during your middle school years? I had one who opened my eyes to the Bible in a way I never knew possible. He was a Sunday School teacher that laid the groundwork for me entering the ministry years later. He was so much more than just a Sunday School teacher. He loved us. He affirmed us. He actually liked us - we could tell. That man impacted me more than any pastor or teacher ever has since and it came at a time in my life when I needed it the most - middle school.